How to Live the Life of Your Dreams • Inner Fire
Friends, let’s take a moment today to get real about living the life of your dreams. First we have to dream – and that dreaming has to be absolutely pure and unapologetic. If we taint those dreams with expectations of family, friends or society, those dreams won’t come true.
Because we’ll start to question ourselves, and then we find that we aren’t sure we can trust ourselves.
If we can’t trust ourselves, let me ask you this – who can we trust?
Today I made the decision to step away from one dream and pursue another.
If you rely on someone else to be the wind underneath your wings, you will never be free, independent. But looking closer at what drew me so strongly to the previous dream, I see that it’s precisely what I was doing – relying on a big name to help boost the value of my name. Cringe.
Around the new year I started writing an article about how to live the life of your dreams, which was published here on Inner Fire just a few weeks ago.
I like to think that I’m an expert when it comes to dreaming. It’s something that comes naturally to me, and you’ll often find my body waiting around here on Earth for my spirit to come back. Yes, the dreaming comes easy to me, but when it’s something I’m always doing, it’s something that always changes – making it a bit more difficult to initiate real change when I’m jumping from one idea/location/project/dream to the next.
Already I can feel the tides changing, making way for a dream that aligns with my higher self, free from fear and attachment.
… And what a time it is to plant new beginnings!
With a total eclipse in a Pisces super new moon today, there’s no greater time for getting real about the dreams you want to turn into reality – dreams that are fresh and untainted by what worked or didn’t work for us in the past.
As Cathy Pagano at Mystic Mamma explains, “A new door opens, a new story begins. Just as a regular New Moon is a time to plant new seeds, a solar eclipse is a time to let go of old, stagnant energy shells, so the new life energy that’s been gestating within can begin to grow.”
Reading over my article on how to live the life of your dreams, I am reminded that how I want to feel must align with where I live, what I’m doing and how I’m serving the world. Even how I speak my truth through my lips.
Step Two / Decide How You Want to Feel
“Sensual. Courageous. Free. Connected.”
These are some darn good feelings to live by, don’t you think? I agree.
But where do these feelings come from? What actions must we take to ignite the fire of what our soul desires to feel?
These feelings aren’t found in the cold, in a society forged by conformists; nor are they found in a city. These are not the feelings found in a corporate agreement.
Step Three / Visualize the Future
“At 33, I am living between two homes – one in the Swiss mountains and one on an island. I have published two cookbooks and am the editor of a certain magazine. My partner and I run retreats that combine our non-profit animal rescue.”
While most of this vision still holds true, I see now that my one year goals weren’t going to get me here. I thought that if I suffered through city life for a year, then I’ll have earned my right to eventually end up in the Italian or Swiss countryside.
Guess what, guys. We don’t have to earn it. If you can do something now, do it.
Step Six / Break Down Your Vision into Goals
“1 Year (Personal) – I am fluent in Russian. (by December 2016)
5 Years (Career) – The magazine I am editor for goes from digital to print (by January 2019)
10 Year (Health) – I join a juice detox retreat every year (by March 2022)”
Breaking a vision down into specific goals is a powerful process. It brings the magic of a dream down to reality, shaping the path of how we get from point A to point B. And when we realize that it’s more like point A to point Z, we have a bit of a map to keep us going.
BUT when you add in the “by when” years, I’ve personally found it to be limiting where it has the potential to be empowering.
When I took time to look at the 10 year visions of a certain group of people in a certain place, I saw similar 10 year goals: I will live somewhere warm in 10 years. Why wait ten years? I choose to live somewhere warm. With sun. Now. Because 10 years is waaaaay too long to live without sunlight.
And on that note, why should I wait until 2022 to go on a juice detox every year? The goals above are just a small sample of the full list in personal, health and career categories. Looking at them, I don’t feel inspired, but instead feel that I’m limiting myself because I can accomplish almost all of my 5 and 10 year goals in less than three years.
But then again, maybe that’s what the process is for – unveiling how much you really are capable of.